Hello! My name is Maria and today we’re talking about “Option B” by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant.
This book is about facing adversity, building resilience and being able to find joy in life after tragic events.
The first point I’d like to talk about are the three P’s.The three P’s stand for personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence.
Personalization is when we think that it’s our fault, that when something happens, a tragic event, we blame ourselves.
We think of all the ways we could have prevented something from happening.
Pervasiveness is the belief that when a tragic event occurs, we feel that it’s going to effect all other aspects of our life.
That this specific event is going to stop us from being able to function in a variety of other parts of our life.
After a tragic event we feel that it’s going to last forever.
That the emotions and the grief that we’re feeling will never go away.
The combination of these three P’s is what challenges our resilience.
Sandberg through telling her story of how she struggled and eventually overcame these three P’s shows us as the reader how to be more resilient and to overcome the issues that we may face in our life.
Sandberg talks about how the silence, the elephant in the room that nobody wanted to address actually made the situation worse.
That was very interesting to me, because I personally feel that when I’ve encountered people that have faced tragic events I don’t want to bring it up.
However Sandberg explains that really the assumption that if I bring it up, they’ll remember what’s occurred is ridiculous, because a tragic event sticks with somebody regardless of whether or not another person brings it up.
And the issue specifically when dealing with someone’s death is that through silence we’re not remembering the person, we’re not honoring the person.
If we’re silent and we don’t talk about the elephant in the room, we’re not giving the other person the opportunity to remember and that person may feel that their loved one has gone forgotten.
Now, let’s go over some of the positives and who I think should be reading this book.
One thing I like about this book is that it’s relevant for a variety of tragic situations.
Although Sandberg talks about her personal experiences dealing with the death of her husband, the ideas and the message is relevant for any situation that you may be dealing with, any sort of adversity or grievance that you’re going through.
Sandberg truly opens her heart out to us as the reader and shares the most intimate details of her struggles of her husband’s death.
That’s something I very much appreciated because in order for us to learn and to improve our resilience we have to gain candid understanding from somebody who’s dealt with the issues first-hand.
Well, I think if you’re somebody dealing with adversity, this book can definitely help you because the ideas are so relevant to a number of areas of our life.
So I think if you’re trying to become more resilient and learn how to overcome your grievance this book will definitely help you.
I also think people who have friends that are going through tough times should read this book because it will teach you some of the basic mistakes people make when trying to support their friends that are going through a tough time, but actually don’t help them at all.
That’s it, that’s my book review of “Option B” by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant.
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